Stories of Marriage(s)
In this year of our Lord 2011, so many of my close friends have tied the knot (got hitched/married, for those slow on the lingo).
A good thing, I have been invited to all these wonderful weddings.
A bad thing, I have been left hanging. The almost only single gal in the pack.
Please, don’t give me those eyes. Is it my fault now?!
Okay. In relation to all this getting married, I have heard all manner of stories. The women complain and say, ‘I wish I knew this is what I was getting myself into. Don’t make a mistake of getting married’, they say to us the single ladies when we meet. And yet, when they met their partner, they kept telling us single ladies, ‘Oh, how wonderful it is to have a partner, someone who complements you yada! yada! yada!
1. I recently heard on telly – some soap or movie. Advice to women, ‘never beg a man to love you, you’ll end up being his slave or doormat’ or whatever it is they said. My funny friend Banda (pseudonym), says that, a woman should never throw all her heart to her hubby or boyfriend because, for one, he’s a stranger and doesn’t really care as much about how you feel about him. Secondly, when you love a man too much, much more than your own self and family, you risk losing yourself.
2. Men are dogs. So you just found that out? I’m sorry. Have you taken time to watch Discovery Channel? Please do, you will lots of valueable lessons. Guys, I’m not branding you dogs or playas…no, and neither am I advocating for that kinda sampling lifestyle… Lakini ladies, you had better sit down every so often and watch the Discovery Channel, you will learn a lot. Trust me.
3. This whole year on radio, there has been talk of sex (much or lack of it), spouses busting their significant others (why in hell’s name would you do that on National radio-this shows the level of immaturity in the parties involved-airing their dirty linen to the world). The things that people air on radio…Geezus! It’s madness. Clearly, people go to the Altar to exchange the vows, then when shit hits the pan, instead of going back to the Altar to find answers, they run to the radio airwaves, which makes the situation worse. People surely have lost their senses. And I thought we are a learned lot.
4. As my friend Banda says, ‘kutangulia sio kufika’. For sure, I have seen that happen too. Like I said before, society pushes people into many things, marriage and reproduction being at the top of the list. If the number of divorce cases at the law courts is anything to go by, it seems someone has missed the point somewhere.
4. There is also a talk show every other week on how to spice things up in some bedrooms. I say some because we have single men and single women, and married people who live single lives. Don’t get it twisted, I am not mocking or…trying to make light a grave matter. But anyhow, that is that. I think WE ALL need to go to the Mijikenda and the Tanzanian fellows to learn a lot of things. But then again, the world is more interesting with variety.
