There’s always someone objecting
Now, I have been going through crazy experiences since September…it seems the devil and his agents were sent to torment me (mildly though).
I never really internalised how stress and depression can easily kills someone…but I lived it these couple of months. Believe me, it’s not a laughing matter.
Next time you find someone hanging by their neck on a tree branch, or someone is found dead on their bed with a burned out jiko in their room, or some rat poison or empty bottle of sleeping pills…think twice before you speak.
Anyway, I probably have talked so much about my mishaps, you can almost recite them by heart.
Now, like the lady on Single Ladies – the series, I had resigned myself to going on a man fast. Shock on me, that’s when heaven or is it hell, sends you all these men from wherever. There I was, sifting, and ended up making a choice. A choice that many people would sneer at…but a choice anyways.
Choice ODH has been working well for me, until a few days ago when I met choice Duckie.
Duckie seems to be well placed as a person…and well, very admirable. Sijui niseme. So, I was telling my gal pal how I was thinking of conquering Duckie. Do you know what she said?
‘What if when you go to see Duckie, he shuts the door and locks it and insists oyu sleep at his house?’
In my mind, I’m thinking, halo, I’m Thirty-fine, not 18. So next I ask her why she’s so pessimistic about my new found friend. She goes like,
‘Nooo, I’m not saying that something bad will happen, but just be careful.‘
Ok, that’s safe enough and I appreciate her concern, but, I sensed some bit of not wanting me to progress in life like she has.
Geezus! Women have issues. And the more reason why I need some male company already. Women are the worst discouragers. She is married and has a man who provides for her and her family, but when I mention that I have found someone who can do the same for me, in a little sinister voice, she’s not supportive.
I remember a time when she asked me for my opinion before she married the man, I was frank with her. I told her, if she feels he is the one, then she can go ahead and marry him. Then here I am asking for the same, I get mixed reactions…I shoulda known better than to tell her. I think that was the end of that discussion. From now on, I aint telling.
Ladies, quit the jealous trips already. Let your gals be happy. If you’re not happy with your choice…too bad, live with it. Just live and let live.
Guys never really sneer at one another. The honest ones that is. Someone will even go out of their way to help you pull yourself up – but for us ladies, we’re always put to pull that woman down to our level, because we don’t have the balls to stand out from the crowd and be counted.
So, is my man fast over?
Did it even begin? It never took off the ground.
And just after reading a blog about being single and liking it (surviving it), things aren’t any easier, when everyday, love, sex and stable relationships are shoved down our throats all over the place. Can’t a single person feel safe and relevant in this society anymore?
